My name is Jill (Bec’s Mum!), I am a Mother and a Grandmother and I know from my own postpartum and early mothering experiences that this is such an incredible but fragile time in a woman’s life.
According to Australian perinatal mental health statistics, around 1 in 5 women will experience postpartum depression or anxiety. About 30 years ago I was one of these women and it makes me so sad to see that the same issues are still present today. I believe so much of it is to do with lack of support.
When they say, ‘It takes a village to raise a child’, I think they also mean, ‘It takes a village to support a new mother’. When my daughter became a Mother, I knew I wanted something different for her. It’s called, ‘Mothering the Mother’ and it has the power to change the trajectory of a woman’s life, her relationship, and her family’s life.
And now I want to offer this to other Darwin Mothers and families. Whether you are still pregnant and planning for your postpartum, navigating life with your first baby or needing support as you grow your family, I can provide practical and emotional support to make the journey as smooth and joyful as possible.
This support could also be used at other times in life. When you have little kids and just need a break from relentless household tasks, during those exhausting months of pregnancy, during times of stress or difficulty when extra support is needed or any other time.
You may need this support yourself or you may know a Mum who could benefit from the gift of support.
Just imagine for a second that it's 1pm. You're still in your PJ's and haven't really eaten yet today, your baby is going through a developmental leap and isn't happy unless they're being held. Then there is a knock on the door. It's Jill, The Postpartum Granny.
She comes in with a warm and understanding smile, knowing exactly what you're going through. You settle on the couch and have a chat about life while she starts on the washing up and heats up some nourishing soup that she brought along for you. She then puts on the washing, hangs out the load that was already in there and folds up everything that is already dry. She puts clean sheets on all of the beds and gets started on the vacuuming and mopping (after picking up everything that your toddler has spread around). Once that's all done, she gets your dinner organised (either from your fridge as per your recipe or a precooked meal she has brought along) and gets your toddler to help so you can have a quiet moment.
You can already feel a weight has been lifted. No, domestic chores are not essential for survival and are not the sum total of motherhood but gosh it feels nice to have a clean house, food in your belly and the washing under control.
While she hangs out the next load of washing and puts on the load of sheets, she puts your baby in the baby carrier and takes your toddler outside for a play while you have a shower and a stretch. As she packs up her things and says goodbye, she leaves you with some home made bliss balls and a cup of tea and reminds you that you are doing an amazing job and that it's hard because you were never meant to do this alone. You take a big breath and enjoy the brief feeling of peace, knowing that you can call her at any time and she'll come and work her magic.
The perfect gift for a new mum, also an amazing way to invest in a little injection of help and support when you need it most. Maybe it’s a one off rescue, maybe it’s a regular thing.
I can help with: Cleaning Washing Changing linen Other housekeeping tasks Cooking and food prep Grocery shopping Caring for your baby in a carrier while I do all of the above so you can take some moments to yourself! Recruiting your older children to help me while I'm there to give you a little break Emotional support and company
You can stay at home tucked in bed or go out for a couple of hours while I take care of the rest.
$35/hour (minimum 3 hours)
To book, contact Jill on 0448 313 903
If you want to give the best gift ever, ask about our gift package (for someone else or yourself, you can totally give gifts to yourself) It can be tailored to suit your budget but could include:
3 hours of cleaning and house help A pre prepared family meal (maybe a lasagne or curry) 2 special meals for mum (delicious soups) 2 special snacks for mum (maybe date balls or Anzacs) A beautiful hamper of locally sourced items just for mum (such as magnesium bath salts, herbal teas, special postpartum healing products)
When you give birth, you experience the most significant, transformative, spiritual, epic, mind, body and soul shattering event of your life.
You don't just go back to normal. Not by a long shot.
As you move into your postpartum, you have stepped into the sacred transformation of motherhood.
You have been through your initiation, your rite of passage, your fire walk and like a phoenix rising from the ashes it is time to start becoming the new you.
But that takes time. Sacred, reverent, delicate time.
In most traditional cultures, women are cared for for around 40 days after the birth of their baby.
It is said that the first 40 days after birth influence the health and wellbeing of that woman for the next 40 years of her life.
In Darwin, a woman is often faced with the daunting prospect of becoming a mother or having subsequent children without family support. Being supported, nourished and cared for post birth is so important for physical recovery and emotional wellbeing as well as coping with the significant life changes that have just taken place.
'You can't pour from an empty cup' - it's vital that mothers are well nourished and supported in the postpartum period.
Postpartum support can decrease the chance of postpartum depression, increase the success of breastfeeding and make what can often be an overwhelming and lonely time a whole lot more peaceful and joyful.